Many big changes typically take place in your life after you get divorced in Texas. You may need a new place to live. You might have to rearrange or shore up your personal finances. If you have children, you have the challenging task of guiding them through this enormous transition. Trying to help them understand why Mom or Dad is no longer living with the family isn’t simple. You also now have to navigate life as a newly-single person, which you probably never anticipated having to do.
All of this takes a great deal of time, patience and fortitude. None of it is easy. It won’t happen overnight.
There is yet another hurdle to think about. You may have forged close relationships with your ex’s parents and family during your marriage. What happens to those relationships after your divorce? Can they still continue, albeit on a somewhat different footing, or is it just too awkward and painful for you to be in contact with them?
How do they now feel about you? Do they blame you for the break-up?
Experts say that a lot depends on whether the divorce was “civilized” or if the split was bitter and fraught with anger and accusations. They offer some tips on dealing with these relationships amidst your new circumstances.
How to remain friends with your former spouse’s relatives after your divorce
- Give things a little time to settle down after your divorce. Everybody may need some time to heal and start fresh.
- If you and your ex’s family care about similar things – maybe sports, pets and especially the kids – it makes it easier to continue the relationships.
- Don’t try to stay pals with your ex’s family just to keep the remnants of your connection with him or her alive. Similarly, don’t try to use them to retaliate against your ex.
- If your former spouse is not comfortable with you still having a connection with their family, think about backing off.
Going through the post-divorce period can be tough. Get the emotional and legal support you need to get back on your feet.