People who are going through a divorce might find the holiday season difficult. It’s disheartening for them to see so many families and couples who look so happy during this time.
Finding ways to cope with the difficulties that come with the holidays can help you learn to enjoy the new life dynamics you have now that you’re single (or nearly so) again.
1. Compartmentalize your social media
People provide unrealistic looks into their life on social media. Enjoy the posts you see but remember that these usually won’t show the full story. Never allow yourself to compare your situation with what you see on social media.
2. Find activities you enjoy
Certain holiday activities that you never to got to try in the past might be enjoyable for you now. You can create new traditions that you can look forward to each year. If you have children, include them in this planning.
3. Let go of the past
You can’t live in the past. Certain things you once did during the holiday season may not be possible now. Don’t dwell on those. Instead, build the holiday season that makes you happy.
4. Address your feelings head-on
You’ll notice a roller coaster of feelings throughout the holidays. Address these as they come up. Trying to bottle up emotions can lead to issues later.
5. Take time to rest
Self-care is always important but the hustle and bustle of the holiday season can make the need for it even more pronounced. Be sure you schedule time to rest throughout the season. Your days don’t have to be over-packed with events.
If you’re in the midst of the divorce process or considering starting the divorce process after the holidays, you should remember to keep your interests protected. Working with someone who understands the situation may be beneficial.